Can You truly
without having experienced self love.
|Has there been a time in your life when you couldn't self pleasure
or you were inhibited about it?
" If you have difficulty talking yourself into a masturbation session, or
in making love to yourself regularly, remember that you are conditioned away
from that activity."
Self-pleasure and self-loving are other terms for masturbation.
Masturbation is the rubbing of the penis, testes, clitorus, vaginal opening,
vulva, breast or anus for sexual stimulation that may lead to orgasm.
|"Some Statistics according to Kinsey's research in his book "Sexual
Behavior in the Human Male" (Alfred Kinsey, 1948), a true eye
opener:- 65% of all females masturbate - and more frequently, as
they get older; 94% of all males had masturbated at some time in
their lives, and that the other 6% were obviously Baptist ministers
who lied to save their necks; Even at age fifty, over half of the
males/female are all masturbating during the course of a single week;
Some respondents whacked off twenty-three times a week in early adolescence;
and even at age fifty, a few hardy souls were putting in two dozen
shots a month.
Self Pleasuring is an inward experience. I want to feel my body, I want
to touch my body, and feel many different sensations. I often set an
intention for my own slower and longer solo sessions. I like to see how
delicate I can be, or discover a new way of using my hands, or how close
I can create as much intense feelings a possible, as many times as possible.
Slowing down is the my main things. It is an act of self love to slow
things down. Sure it can be hard to slow down, but who doesn't need to
slow down a bit???
We human beings are able to make love more frequently and more sensuously
than perhaps any other animal. Yet we are often disappointed after
lovemaking. Why? Because most of us are like owners of a precious Stradivarius
violin that we have never learned to play.
Jolan Chang "The Tao of the Loving Couple"
|"If you delay your orgasm and raise the energy up
in your body, you will eventually reach a level of energy at which
does not bring you down. And in the meantime you will benefit from
the effects of that energy flowing through your body whether you
have orgasms at the end or not."
Benefits of Self-pleasuring
Although some people may feel that masturbation is something you only do if
you do not have a partner or when you are younger, many people use masturbation
as a way of reducing stress, avoiding unplanned pregnancy and disease and
ensuring their own orgasm.
Popular myth might have you believe that if you masturbate, you will
get hairy palms, become uninterested in partnered sex or have poorer
vision. These are all false, and in reality the many health benefits
of orgasm include a reduction in discomfort:
|"The idea that a man must have orgasm or risk physical
pain is erroneous. It certainly does not happens to men who are
the energy upwards. The biggest problem you will have with this exercise
is not how to do it, because it is extremely simple, but your own
conditioning about masturbation."
for women living with pain (Kromisaruk & Whipple, 1995)
from cramping and uterine congestion during menstruation (Masters & Johnson,
due to a build up of fluid in the prostate gland that is a result of a non-bacterial
inflammation (The Prostate Book, Stephen N. Rous)
The practice of weaving contradictory aspects of our
personalities into a whole
for the purpose of expanding our consciousness.
Who’s Doin’ It and How?
Both males and females of many ages, ethnicities and backgrounds
masturbate. If a person does not choose to self-pleasure, that’s OK too. How
you express yourself sexually is up to you. If touching yourself doesn’t
feel enjoyable, you don’t have to do it. Some people use their
fingers or hands to stroke their body, while others rub against objects
(pillows, sex toys etc.) or use their imaginations to fantasize.
|It seems that the most important ingredient of sexuality
if that personal magnetism, that magnetic attraction. With it,
sex is easy.
Without it, sex becomes a hassle and a chore. The masturbation exercise,
without a doubt, increases one's personal magnetism. I also began
to see that my vitality, my aliveness, and my enthusiasm were increasing
noticably. Friends remarked how wonderful I looked, how alive I was.
I began to learn that I could direct the energy to any part of my
body, not only my heart, and began using it for healing, directing
it to any place in my or theirs body that wasn't feeling right."
Since ancient civilisation, self-loving (autoeroticism) has been practiced
as a natural and elegant way of honoring the gift of a body and communing
with one's inner divinity. Even today, sex therapists extol the benefits
of self-loving as a vital tool for self-knowledge and relationship enhancement.
Sexual satisfaction with a lover is attained by first becoming a sexual
virtuoso with yourself.
Best Reasons to Masturbate
We present here the many sensible reasons why you should spend precious time
and energy on what may appear to be frivolous, threatening, wickedly self-indulgent
Because masturbation is immensely pleasurable, invigorating, rejuvenating and
Because masturbation proclaims that sex is good in, by, and for itself.
Because masturbation makes you a better lover.
Because you can have more sex more often.
Because sexual pleasure is each person's birthright.
Because masturbation is the ultimate safe sex.
Because masturbation is a joyous expression of self love.
Because masturbation is an excellent cardiovascular workout.
Because each person is their own best lover.
Because masturbation increases sexual awareness.
|Can Tantra help heal sexual abuse and trauma?
Yes, many people come to Tantra because of previous abuse. Trauma, especially,
sexual trauma leaves a violent impact on the tissues of the body. The
body responds by going numb and unconscious. Many people come to Tantra
with an inability to experience pleasure during intimacy. What happens
is our bodies go numb to protect ourselves from experiencing the pain
of the trauma. The result is an inability to experience pleasure and
orgasm. In Tantra sessions we teach emotional release techniques that
release body memories on a cellular level bring numb areas of the body
back to consciousness.
One learns to
love oneself by making love to oneself
Explore your body as if for the first time
Self pleasure and masturbation are one of the most powerful gifts you
can give yourself. To explore your body with loving compassion; to allow
yourself the time and space to feel pleasure; and to know that you are
worth giving and receiving this pleasure are some of the most powerful
steps to becoming sexually and spiritually whole.
|"When Self pleasuring, the only thing to remember
is that it is extremely simple - raising the body's sexual energy
to the point of orgasm, and instead of letting the energy go out
into the orgasm, allow it to come up in the body, up to the heart
the brain. It happens that, at the point just before orgasm, there
is a channel open in the body, and if you rest at that point and
put your attention in your heart, the energy which has been generated
will flow naturally upwards toward the heart. You don't have to do
anything; it just happens. Don't worry about what it feels like,
or if it is happening, just do it! Begin and adventure with yourself
to see what your sexual energy is all about. Rediscover the physical
system you were trained to ignore. "
Relax and allow yourself to become aware of the subtlest of sensations
as they play over your whole body. The air moving against your skin,
the sounds and smells around you.. you get the idea. By regularly playing
with sensory awareness like this, allowing your mental chatter to dissolve
into pure sensory awareness, you will eventually get to the point where
form and solidity dissapear, and there is only the sensation of tingling
energy, and then, as you continue to dissolve, experiment, and play,
only bliss and emptiness...
Have a session with yourself every day, as a meditation, for three months,
and see what the results are for yourself.
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